"I’ve grown up my whole life playing second-fiddle to the pretty girl. And it took a really long time for me to realize that it’s okay to be who I am, and that in somebody’s eyes, I might be the pretty girl. Coming to terms with the amount of space I take up in the world, which is also like a feminist conceit too, because we’re taught from birth to shrink ourselves. Erasing fine lines and wrinkles. Shrinking two sizes. Making varicose veins disappear. It’s like this language that wants women to not be visible.” - Meredith Graves
I want to quote this entire video. This is perfect; she is the most beautiful speaker.
This is incredible and SO SO important and has actually made me feel better about certain things lately, particularly with what she said about being taken seriously and misogynistic comments from men on the internet.
Ron Weasley’s character is consciously written as somewhat racist. Not as racist as Malfoy, of course - he doesn’t scoff at mudbloods and halfbloods, and he doesn’t see himself as superior at all. Still, he unquestionably accepts the inferior position of house elves (they love serving), when he finds out that Lupin’s werewolf his reaction is not only scared but also disgusted (Don’t touch me!) and he is clearly very uncomfortable finding out that Hagrid is half-giant (giants are wild and savage).
And this is brilliant. Because it demonstrates that racism isn’t only present in clearly malicious and evil people, in the Malfoys and Blacks - it’s also there in warm, kind, funny people who just happened to learn some pretty toxic things growing up in a pretty toxic society. And they can unlearn them too, with some time and effort. Ron eventually accepts Hagrid’s parentage, lets Lupin bandage his leg and in the final battle, he worries about the safety of the house elves.
Some people are prejudiced because they are evil, and some people are prejudiced because they don’t know better yet. And those people can learn better, and become better people. And that’s an important lesson. The lesson taught about discrimination shouldn’t be “only evil people do it”, because then all readers will assume it doesn’t apply to them. Instead old JK teaches us “you too are probably doing it, and you should do stop ASAP”.
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Do you think every president goes through a awkward first few weeks in office when they’re not sure when’s the right time to ask if aliens are real or not?
We live in a society that’s sexist in ways it doesn’t understand. One of the consequences is that men are extremely sensitive to being criticized by women. I think it threatens them in a very primal way, and male privilege makes them feel free to lash out.
This is why women are socialized to carefully dance around these issues, disagreeing with men in an extremely gentle manner. Not because women are nicer creatures than men. But because our very survival can depend on it.–
The whole article sadly hits very close to home.
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